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+{"prompt": "Like the title says I seem to experience periods where my breathing stops and I eventually notice and need to consciously make myself breathe Im wondering if this is something that is known to be linked to dysautonomia and if other people on this sub experience this  I actually recently got diagnosed with two breathingrelated conditions but Im not sure that either of them explains this particular symptom I have asthma and I do experience more classic shortness of breathdifficulty breathing in addition to the pauses as well as mild obstructive sleep apnea just got that diagnosis yesterday so still figuring it all out  Its not that I think those diagnoses dont apply but Im just not sure that they explain the breathing pauses while awake It almost feels like sleep apnea but without being asleep lol Its like Im holding my breath without meaning to Ive been on the waitlist to see a neurologist who specializes is dysautonomia for many months now because I have some symptoms that point in that direction potential POTS among other things In the meantime Im curious if this feeling of paused breathing is something others experience TIA for any input", "completion": "I did the same My PT said its something she sees all the time with pots patients Had to force myself to take a breath in immediately after breathing out to correct it I set a few alarms throughout the day to remind myself to focus on controlling my breathing Didnt take long to correct"}
+{"prompt": "hey dudes I was wondering if anyone had book recommendations for stories written aboutby trans men of colour who dont live in western countries The stories Ive found by POCs tend to still be set in AmericaCanadaEurope etc and Im looking for something a bit different Thanks", "completion": "I have a book called becoming him by Landa Mabenge from South Africa Granted I bought the book in South Africa so no promises on being able to buy it where you are But it exists"}
+{"prompt": "I am a software engineer and I work from home 85 everyday Besides doing work for my company I have some spare times here and there during my work hours I am looking for suggestions of ideas what can I do while working from home for my 85 job and generating some additional incomesThanks", "completion": "Go for Amazon wholesale or Amazon Private LabelIt can make you more than 5k  15 per month using 2 hours daily lifetime Its an automated business You should consider itI am doing it So yeah I can say its quite easy than coding  Although it isnt passive you could try a drop servicing website Lots of work on the front end but it can be largely automatedAlso if you can put together a portfolio of some kind on your engineering skills you could post it on sites that advertise freelance workJust ideas cheers"}
+{"prompt": "Spent almost almost 2 months waiting to hear back from EDD after reapplying 8 weeks certified and no payment On the brink of going into default with bills living off of small loans from friends and family I passed the interview and got verified on Idme Two months waiting and still nothing I have spent the better part of a week calling EDD to no avail Many times I made it to a tier 1 specialist only to be transferred to tier 2 Cant tell you how many times my call had been dropped at this point waiting for hours Stress inducing Finally this morning I called 8 times and made it into the queue Here I am thinking Im going to speak to a tier 1 specialist again after 40 minit was tier 2 It was like speaking to an angel She cleared my issue payment will be received in the morning My god Its over I can breathe Dont give up guys I woke up everyday at 8am and used the comma method It finally paid off Best of luck to you all", "completion": "Its one thing that getting through to a person is almost near impossible but listening to the automated message repeat the same information OVER AND OVER AND OVER is such a time killer Its just like let I dont need UI online thats why Im calling blood vessels burst"}
+{"prompt": "Someone else is talking with George not a main cast member I dont think and says blank are blank  along the lines of rules are rules and George repeats it back like yes  are  in a slightly sarcastic exasperated wayI cant for the life of me remember the words or whos in the exchange Ive tried searching the scripts but dont have enough to go on Any help", "completion": "Probably when he wants a magazine because theres a blurb about him in it purchased from the airport shop and he gets the last one that a criminal in shackles wants as well He refuses to give it to him and the guy says If I wasnt in these shackles and George says But you are Blanche you are in the shackles Its apparently a reference to a film"}
+{"prompt": "Why not most people dont using cython instead  for making desktop programming and building high performance software from cython instead of others", "completion": "Because the number of times where python alone is not fast enough are incredibly small Most python libraries are already written in C So theres no benefit to going to cythonThe biggest single perk for python is reduced developer time When you make it harder to code in python you start to eat into that advantage As I see it another big reason is that Python is a scripting language No need to compile anything As soon as you bring in Cython and start using a compiler youve lost a huge benefit of Python gt making desktop programmingIn much of the code written for the desktop speed isnt important since the code is usually waiting on the humanUsing cython adds another dependancy that may complicate thingsRaw speed is only one factor in deciding how to solve a problemuPsychologicalbeing"}
+{"prompt": "Hello all members of rKazuhaMains this post details the results of our Art CompetitionUnfortunately we only received one submission  a Subreddit Icon submission from ujuyue  so being the only submission it automatically wins The subreddit icon has been updated with the submissionDue to the low number of submissions I will continue to take submissions on the form until 15th July if anyone wants to submit In the meantime temporary images will be used for the background and the banner until further noticeThats all and thank you to ujuyue for the new Subreddit Icon", "completion": "mod can you do something about ppl not using the megathread at all the sub is flooded in questions "}
+{"prompt": "I had memorised each and every lyric of every song Maroon 5 had made before Jordi I had the same plans for this album too but man  This is just not it The singles they released before the album are alright but the rest is so bad It is almost like Maroon 5 made an album for TikTok This is imo their worst album to date Really hope they learn a lesson understand that they should not be chasing clout and make an album from the Songs about Jane  Hands all over era", "completion": "Honestly idc what they make I just want them to make what they made before red pill Blues they need to stop getting other artists for their songs too Im not listening to Maroon 5 to hear cardi b I listening for Adam Levine one of the best singers of our time and having his voice be ruined with effects removes what I want to hear Warning Long CommentI think I have to agree Adam mentioned recently that even during those first few albums he was thinking about their current more RampB driven sound as where he wanted the band to be but he basically got outvoted on it probably until they were all ready to try something new So the fact that theyre making records that they want to make and that theyre happy with it Im happy for them for that and I wish them the best with the sales of Jordi But for me it doesnt hit the mark Its funny I might be in a minority when I say Red Pill Blues wasnt my least favorite album my least favorite was V I was glad that they went in the direction they did because even though the RampB style wasnt my favorite all or at least most of the songs still felt like Maroon 5 to me I thought that songs like Closure Denim Jacket and Who I Am were all very well executed and especially with Closure you could almost hear a bit of that oldschool M5 sound I also agree that the singles for Jordi were some of the better songs Memories is very grounded and real to me and Nobodys Love is probably my favorite off the album I do like Lost and Lovesick quite a bit as well But for me its not that the rest of the songs are bad its that they all sound the same Theres nothing really differentiating most of these songs from one another Its all that chillRampB vibe But like almost every single song Compare that to any of their other albums and they all have more variation in tone between the songs Thats why Hands All Over is my favorite dont worry Songs About Jane is a very close 2nd Im also a bit fatigued by all the outside writers Im okay with them using different producers from song to song I think that should actually help differentiate the songs but like I said that didnt happen here But the list of writers is getting ridiculous I get that Adam is still a cowriter on everything but when there are 510 writers for one song how much is Adam contributing He says he writes all his own lyrics still but I have to think some of those choruses had been written prior As for the music itself I dont see Adam writing more than maybe a tiny guitar lick and even then thats a long shot Whats happening is theyre having people write music for them adding their own lyrics and most of the band members are playing their instruments I think James said that they transitioned to this way of writing because it was easier and there was less pressure on them Yup that checks out but I think thats supposed to be part of the experience of being a band Are you just gonna keep making the rest of your albums like this because its easier on you Sounds really lazy to me And this is the third album in a row with none of the other members cowriting Overexposed had a few songs they did which all turned out good I dont necessarily need them to go back to their old sound I would just appreciate them writing within the band If this album was completely written within the band I would probably have a much higher opinion of itI guess I just find it hard to believe that James or Jesse or anyone else in the band literally never come to the group and say Wow guys I have something great that I just wrote Or hard to believe that that would be enjoyable Do Jesse and James just practice the parts theyve been told to play and thats all their time They never write anything and show the band Its just sad to meAnd finally the amount of features is ridiculous Two maximum beyond Beautiful Mistakes wouldve been plenty M5 usually writes pretty awesome bridges so I dont know whats stopping them from that Another thing that feels lazy to meTLDR  Jordi in my opinion is their worst album They are leaning too heavily on outside writers and RampBHipHop styles making the album too consistent with itself Even though its my least favorite album theres still some gems here see all of the nonfeature songs EXCEPT Seasons I feel the same way about Maroon 5 in general unfortunately Its not that I hate their new album but it isnt as memorable as their previous classics Oh well back to Songs About Jane Agreed The only really solid new song is Lost  The rest of the album tracks generally feel either halfbaked or phonedin or both At least RPB had some standout nonsingles Best 4 U Who I Am Closure Ive heard it and I dont hate it but I dont love either I personally dont think that its terrible I just think that this album is ridiculously weak even Red Pill Blues is better than this album IMO never thought that I was gonna say that in my entire life lmao and other thing that I realize is that the other members are there just to some kind of moral support I guess everything is so much electronic that bothers me doesnt sound like a band anymore This album has less involvement from the rest of the band than any other album Look at the credits Jesse is only on 5 tracks FFS I do have to admit Maroon 5 is kinda going downhill It seems like every song they come out with now is an obvious cashgrab and a formulaic pop hit But I love everything from Songs About Jane to V V is my favorite Maroon 5 album and even some from Red Pill Blues I havent listened to Jordi in full yet but the reviews Ive heard dont seem like much in the way of it being good"}
+{"prompt": "Hi Electronics noob here I wanted to rig an old RC car with an Arduino I googled and found this simple circuit diagram with a motor control circuitampx200Bhttpspreviewredditx49261vp7q571pngwidth512ampformatpngampautowebpamps6c23b07595dda8e0fe040fd3c8331887379f4151I used a 2n 2222 BJT transistor as the transistor in the diagram and the motor was a 486v dc motor However the circuit does the motor does not move that fast compared to when I was directly supplying it 5v from a power supply On top of that my 2n 2222 is too hot to touch while operating Is this normal If not what am I doing wrong", "completion": "A 2n2222 is waaaay undersized its not just voltage to keep in mind its current You may be better off searching for a cheap hbridgemotor controller to run it off an arduino You also have to figure out how much current amps the motor uses so the controller you get is sized appropriately For OnOff One direction Low current  This circuit is correctIf your motor consumes more than 100mA  You will need a higher base current  so use a smaller base resistor and make sure the Arduino can handle it For higher currents more than 500mA use a beefier transistor  preferably a MOSFET 2 things1 Most RC cars have a built in H bridge that you can solder to directly and control with an arduino2 If you want to make life easy though use an L298 motor controller with the arduino Makes life easy 3 If you want Bluetooth control use a HC05 or HC06 module or swap to a arduino BLE adafruit Sense or even a microbit since those have Bluetooth built in"}
+{"prompt": "I was thinking of doing a full rerun ofDemons soulsDark Souls 1 2 3Bloodborne SekiroThat should be doable in 6 months right", "completion": "I dont have a PS5 so itll be even easier for me One less game to worry about Not sure how soon I should start though A month per game is probably enough right Been playing Chivalry 2 and its a blast  Will still check in on Warzones new seasons  Honestly Im hyped for ESOs next gen update next week  60fps finallyPlus Battlefield 2042 and Back 4 Blood come out in October so once summer is over there will be plenty to hold me over until January"}
+{"prompt": "patch hasnt been out for long but every game ive seen akali picked or banned and being a one trick its not a good sign for me just wondering other than the small lich bane buff has anything else been changed any new builds making her stupid strong or has the pro league thats been going on just encouraged people to perma ban her again", "completion": "They can nerf her to the ground for all i care the only thing I want is some indication of when the enemy can see me in shroud or not like put eyes over me in shroud or remove the filter if i get hit by lets seeLee sin e or q karma w Kled e Kled q too i think and all other tether champs or random true sight that makes no senseAnd tower range for that matter it removes the filter when youre in tower range but theres also an area right outside that range where they can still see you but the filter is still thereThat is the most frustrating thing to me"}
+{"prompt": "I am a level 140 wizard and Ive been farming Bentley Daysong for the past few days and Ive gotten literally nothing no crowns gear or anything from the dragons hoard pack I dont know if Im just super unlucky or are the drops glitched Is this happening to anyone else either I dont know if Ive been farming the wrong boss or something because this doesnt feel right", "completion": "Its just the rates being bad I got the mount on my max Death two days ago and the only crowns gear so far has been one robe"}
+{"prompt": "Hey everyone I thought it might be worth introducing myself Im a Londoner in my 20s and Ive had hyperhidrosis for as long as I can remember although its definitely got worse as Ive got older Any other Brits around", "completion": "Hello my sweaty friends Im a 50 year old female from EdinburghI suffer from Craniofacial Hyperhidrosis amp Ive had it all my life Hi Im 23 F from Oxfordshire and have also always had HH so I can commiserate its disheartening to hear yours has gotten worse with age  Im 22 from N London suffice to say Ive very much enjoyed the lack of handshakes around Covid I bought an iontophoresis machine last year and it has honestly changed my life  my hands only sweat when Im hot these days definitely worth a look if you havent already"}
+{"prompt": "Do hunting laws like certain season limits or protected species still apply for a survival situation For an example lets say you see a deer but its not deer season yet youve been in a survival situation for days and need food Is that allowed", "completion": "Seems to me if killing a deer gets you picked up by the warden and she hauls you out it was the most effective survival choice you made There is no statutory exemption for a survival situation but I think that if you violated game laws in a bona fide survival scenario where you had no other choice the likeliness of your case making it through a warden a district attorney a judge and a jury is pretty slim This is coming from Australia but I would say if youre in a proper survival situation where you are trying to get out then the law would be understanding If you put yourself in the situation to see if you can survive then they will probably charge youIn Australia its illegal to use snare traps on animals as they dont always kill humanely and quickly but they are also taught in most survival classes because of their simple setup and ease of use Ubi non sunt magistratus leges non suntWhere there are no cops there is no lawIts a long standing principle of English common law for the sake of preserving life no law can withstand manifest need Its taught explicitly in ham radio licensing classes A large part of those classes covers all of the laws and regulations about what you can broadcast at what power when on what bands etc If youre in an emergency situation you are explicitly empowered by common law to broadcast whatever you want on whatever frequency with whatever power laws be damned if its with the intent of preserving lifeIts long been known that in areas where the central government fails Bosnia for example the area wildlife is swiftly hunted to extinction There is no legal obligation that supersedes a full stomach If Im dying and a stupid protected animal is the only way I get to see my wife n kids again that animal is going to be eaten and disappeared i dont know about your country but in my country all laws can be broken if it is for the reasson of saving your own life or saving someone else life Not directly the answer your question but Ive heard that in Texas porcupine are protected for this reason Theyre extremely easy to kill even without any tools or weapons just takes a stick Very slow and great for survival purposes quick search shows there is no protection so idk I think you can definitely eat whatever you want if youre legitimately starving So there is something called Prosecutorial discretion Basically what that means is prosecutors typically are able to decide if they want to bring a case or not because these are elected positions hypothetically theyll go the way of popularity because they want to keep their job in your example it would be an incredibly unpopular move to prosecute because obviously you had to chose between life or death This kind of thing happens all the time and you never hear about it prosecutorial discretion not your survival example At the end of the day Society makes the rules and society wont punish you for trying to stay alive I suspect it would be different if you harvested a deer outside of season to survive than if you ate a whole nest of California condor eggs and their mother to survive Its a survival situation I dont care if I get in trouble I need to survive Then I will deal with consequences later I would rather go to jail alive and get my 3 meals than not survive because of some law man put in place This is what is referred to as justification That is yes you may have broken the law but the circumstances are such that you were justified in doing so and should not be prosecuted as a result This question should be on Quora Seriously if the consensus in the answers is that it is not allowed are you going to sit next to a deer and starve yourself to death Tangential anecdotal experience I was stranded one night on a mountain in a wilderness area where fires are banned theyre very strict about this The rescue wouldnt come for one day but I was in contact with them I asked if I could have a fire despite the ban They gave me permission From this experience I would assume in survival situations there is some flexibility I remember reading a news story about a man who was poor who hunted to feed his family out of season out of need and the judge showed mercy Not gonna be too concerned about it if life is on the line If they want to charge me they can come and rescue me first If Im in a survival situation and Im starving I dont give a shit and a half about the law Im killing me a deer"}
+{"prompt": "1 Left coach out on purpose2 Apparently limited by 6 options add in comments any player u were disappointed withView Pollhttpswwwredditcompollns3f3y", "completion": "Most disappointed with the rotations Players have good games players have bad games but as a coach you need to be able to put them in a system that emphasizes their strengths and minimizes their weaknessesSome of the lineups I saw on the floor this year were like specifically designed to do the opposite Deni stan hereI voted Deni because1 His 3 point shooting was below my expectations I am talking mostly about times when he had 0 contest and he missed I dont expect him to take 100 of those shots  but if you are left empty a large  of those shots should be in imho2 Passiveness  1st half of the season in many games he was just standing in the corner waiting for a pass remember myself shouting Pass to Deni Interestingly only after Hutchison joined Deni saw an example of a 3 slashing to the basket and started doing that quite successfully3 Under utilised  Remember the amazing pass to Westbrook for an alley hoop He could do that so much moreI was hoping that Deni would be a 1012 points  5 ast  57 Reb on his rookie year  I may be to hard on him because Im a fan and because I know he could be so much better than what he was Probably Bertans cuz hes too inconsistentI dont know i dont think any player played bad based on my expectations for them We are just not very good  Rui Gaff and even Russ exceeded my expectations Russ exceeded expectations Beal met them Rui met them Its too early to judge Deni so I dont know Bertans didnt meet expectations Lopez exceeded them Picked Beal because I didnt want the low hanging fruit here Beal has been amazing this year as a scorer but thats expected at this point If were talking about growth as a player he didnt significantly improve his passing decision making or defense things I think are still keeping him from the very top tier of NBA stars who can consistently propel otherwise mediocre teams to successThis is especially important with Russ here now who also makes questionable decisions at a fairly high clip again despite being a huge plus all around There are times for shooting against double and triple teams but great players know when to make the pass to keep a defense honest Until Brad starts doing that Im going to be disappointed because hes so close to getting to that true top tier Bertans made me want to rip my hair out bro had meaningless threes Games where we didnt need him hed show up but games where we did need him hed take contested 33 footers Bertans was just trash but i was more disappointed in deni getting injured He needed that season with you guys to develop Weird seeing Bertans Bertans was a 40 3pt shooter with bad defense last year He was also a 40 3pt shooter with bad defense this year Hes not going to magically develop skills because he got paid After signing that contract I expected Bertans to take ot to another level He looked unfit took bad shots and teams looked to have figured out his game Having said that we could have created some shots for him rather than pass him the ball and expect him to make itI wasnt a big fan of Deni but he didnt dissapoint me because I wasnt expecting much in his first year the verdict is still out on him He looks alrightRuss and Beal were good and everyone else exceeded my expectations Neto Lopez Gafford did much better than I anticipated"}
+{"prompt": "I 33F have a sister 30F and a little brother 17M My mom single motherour parents divorced while she was pregnant with my brother was a wonderful mother to both me and my sister However she switched up incredibly while raising my brotherso much to the point that I offered to raise my brother instead So my brother who is now a junior in high school has self esteem issues especially related to how he looksweighs He was a chubby baby and my mom used to say negative things to him all the time which I guess kind of ruined his self esteem My sister and I always called him cute handsome etc but obviously our mothers words had a bigger effect on him To put it in perspective for you guysHe is 61 underweight objectively a good looking kid yet still finds himself ugly andor fat I a 58 woman weigh more than him and am at a healthy weight Anyways despite everything hes still a cheerful and talkative kid who really does love our mother and this makes me 10x angrier Now onto the problemI made a mess in the kitchen yesterday while doing a little baking and accidentally fell asleep on the couch due to exhaustion and forgot to clean up My mom saw the mess and started screaming at my brother and my brother said that hed clean it up and that he was sorry He basically admitted to doing something he didnt do and when I found out I immediately told my mom it was my fault but she said that it was fine I asked her to apologize to him but she said that he was a man and that she doesnt need to I got mad and told her that if she kept this up then her son will end up doing something drastic She said that she wasnt doing anything and I said something along the lines of Seriously Youre literally the cause of all his problems I also called her a terrible motherShe got MAD She said I didnt go through all this shit for my own daughter to take a boys side of her own mothers She made a lot of gender based comments like youre a girl you should take my side and hes a boy he deserves it etc Then she went to her room and slept Honestly Im just confused now Also while I dont regret standing up for my brotherI feel like maybe I shouldnt have blamed her for all his issues since its a pretty big accusation and shes obviously hurt Im thinking I shouldve been more mature Plus she wasnt a bad mother to me or my sister so maybe that was uncalled for tooBut yeah aita for blaming my mother for all of my brothers problems", "completion": "She sounds misandrist AF Does he happen to look like his father NTA at all I would talk with your bro and try to be his shoulder Your mom is completely fucking him up and it may be too late to undo all her damageEdit Im not implying hes beyond hope of healing just that its going to leave scars So the quicker you help him start healing the better NTAWow that is some abuse there to your brotherYour mom has really bad toxic sextet anger issues and if it is in regard to your father then it is quite messed up that she is taking it out on your brother who is his own person  He is not her former partner he is her childI am sorry but she is abusive and punishing him for his gender   Abuse no excuse plain and simple  So yes based on the information presented she is a bad mother and the cause of his low self esteem NTA Sounds like your mother is a sexist ass whos taking things out on your brother because hes not female Wow youre NTA but your mom surely is Boys need to be loved and nurtured too It breaks my heart to hear that she thinks he doesnt deserve an apology just because hes a man Hes still a child Shes an adult She should know better and your brother deserves an apology Its great that youre standing up for him He needs a good support system NTA Your brother doesnt deserve any of this treatment If youre in a position to take care of him emancipation cases for kids that are 17 12 or older are usually very easy because the courts dont want to go through the whole legal battle just for the kid to turn 18 He needs to get out of that environment and start healing from your mothers abuse ASAP NTA  Your brother may be on his way to both eating and emotional disorders because of your mothers toxic behavior Im glad he has you looking out for him given he was apologizing for things he didnt even do she has already done a number on him poor kid NTA  It sounds pretty obvious that your mom doesnt like men  Now that your little brother is knocking on the door to manhood she feels like its okay to really dig in on him   NOT COOL   Just let him know that you got his back whatever she says and help him form an escape plan for when he graduates NTA Its an abusive home and you should tell him that You should talk to him about the fact that your mothers views are distorted That those views are a reflection of her fears and experiences and have nothing to do with him as a person Talk about it head on Even if it hurts to see your mom in that light Even if he doesnt want to hear it Make him listen and then do what you can to help him leaveShes broken not him It will continue to rip him up inside every day if you dont help him see realityIve been where he is so Im begging you to talk to him NTA This elephant has been standing around in the middle of the room for the past 17 years The dam was due to break sooner or later and your mom needed to hear it Thank goodness your brother has you and your sister Your mothers behavior is cruel and sophomoric Nothing worse than a mother making a child feel unwanted just for being born How confusing it must be for him Shame on your mom Does your brother look like your dad Sounds like mom is projecting her hurt from the relationship onto an innocent kid who reminds her of the man who ruined her life or whatever NTA I grew up with toxic misandrist too I am the only boy in my family in a 20 year age range On top of that each of my mother and her sisters had at least one toxic marriage Men are pigs was one of the nicest things I heard growing upIs there any way you can get him staying with you or your other sister or spending more time with him to try to reduce the impact of what your mother is doing to him I mean CPS might be needed in the end This can have seriously long lasting effects and he really needs someone he can talk to about this and possibly therapyI wish your brother the best and hope he is able to get away from your mother soon and receive some helpEdited to fix missing opening words gthes a boy he deserves itDAFUQ did i just readIs she one of those stereotypes that hates all men in general just because they are men   That sounds toxic AF  and your brother will probably need therapy to deal with this mother inflicted trauma thereFrom your description  coupled with that comment  Id say you were spot on with the comment that all or almost all issues he has are due to her comments  if you keep hearing things like youre worthless since birth youll eventually believe itShe is mentally abusing him something badI cannot help but wonder WHY they divorced and if she is projecting her anger of that on your brother Good for standing up for him but prepare for more fighting Mother knows shes wrong but dont wants to change  admit it  so shell go in fightingampx200BNTA NTA Your mother is a horrible sexist and I wouldnt be surprised if she divorced your father for a similar incredibly sexist reason NTA I think you should have a serious calm talk with your mom about all of this She needs to get some therapy for herself and your brother Have you told your brother straight out that what your mom did was wrong Be clear with him NTA this is the kind of bullshit that makes men react badly when they are blamed as the only reason for inequality and sexist attitudes in society Imagine being told to check your male privilege after growing up like this NTA  Reread what your mother said  That shows that she IS the cause of his problems  Can he live with you elsewhere NTAYour mum is punishing your brother for being a boy That much is clear from all the sexist gender based comments that she throws his way Hes a boy he deserves it is an absolutely disgusting thing to say about your own childYou arent TA for your comment because youre bang on the money and your mum should be ashamed of herself Does your mother like your brother at ALLyou should take her side over a boysWhat is she 12 What loving mother thinks of her own flesh and blood as an otherSoooooooo NTA NTA How awful for your brother If youre an adult and hes a year shy of adulthood can you get a place together away from your mom NTA your mum clearly has an issue with him based on gender Maybe hes too much like her ex your dad but that is no excuse Shes abused him his whole life and is treating him awful because hes a guy NTA your Mom being a good mother to you and your sister may just be showing a bias I pretty much think your mother is extremely sexist based on what youre saying she said Maybe it is due to your Mother having resentment to the divorce at your farther  sins of the father being passed onto the son  and it happened while she was pregnant  maybe she turned the baby into a scapegoat or cant disassociate him from it or maybe there is something funny around your brothers birth and a reason connecting it to the divorce it is weird for a guy to bail on his pregnant wife but maybe hes an A or she was that toxic to him Maybe your brother looks a lot like your DadNone of these are valid reasons or excusable to your mother tormentingabusing your brother which is what shes doing If you can offer a place for your brother to stay with you when he turns 18 He really should not be living in that environment but he may feel stuckhopeless right now and without options Try to collect copies of all the important legal documents NTA it sounds like her treatment of your brother has nothing to do with the timing but everything to do with his gender Your moms horrible treatment of him just because he is not a girl is not okay and you should get him out of there ASAP NTA You dont know if your mom is pushing her issues w your dad onto him or shes a misandrist but she is a bad mother to him Im glad that he has you at leastIf you cant get her to see reason could you move out w him when hes 18 I dont know the financial situation or where you live so realize it may not be feasible NTA Just because she was good to you does not mean she cannot be bad And she isSending you and lil bro good vibes NTA Thats sexist and awful parenting Treating your child based on their sex and presumably based on your comment to another commenter appearance resembles father is terrible Get him out of there and get him some therapy NTAIt sounds like shes taking her anger and hostile feelings for your father out on your brother which is completely messed up No wonder his self esteem is destroyed shes been tearing him apart his whole life NTAI think my heart just broke reading this You were right his problems are because of her She may have been a good mother to you but doesnt mean she isnt abusive to him There is a book called a child called it I read it a very long time ago but the mother from my memory was a  good mother to the other sons but she did horrific things to this little boy Absolutely horrific things When he was taken away one of the other golden child was made to take his place Just because you didnt suffer the abuse doesnt make your mother a good mother She is still a horrible human being The brothers often sided with their mother because she treated them so well and she made them think that this little boy deserved the abuse Im begging you get this boy help before he becomes suicidal Get him help before this gets worse You need to get him out of that home NTA It sounds like your mother holds resentment towards her son due to his perceived proximity to his father You were right in your assessment that your mother is to blame for his selfesteem issues The fact that he is willing to take responsibility for things that he has no involvement in is extremely worrying to me especially for a teenage boy Im a 17 year old girl and Ive never met a boy who I think would do anything like that without resistance It seems like hes totally beaten down As someone who also has parents with a terrible relationship with one another I wouldnt say this is an entirely unsalvageable situation But one does have to wonder if rebuilding a healthy relationship between your brother and your mom is even possible or at all ideal for him Even if your mother does confront her resentment your brother clearly has internalized so much of her malice that I fear he will not be able to uphold proper boundaries with her They both need extensive therapy individually and together I do want to say though props to you for acknowledging the fact that while she was a good parent to you and your sister she has failed him on almost every conceivable level So often I see people with siblings completely deny the trauma their siblings went through because they did not experience the same treatment Youre a really good sister NTA at all shes abusing your brother and hes having problems from it she may have been a good mom to you but shes an abusive one to him so ya shes not a good mom in the slightest adding that shes sexist af and i doubt it wont stop or get better unless he moves out and goes low contactno contact w her Id suggest moving him in with you or your sister if possible before anything physical happensunless it already has at least thats what Id do if my sibling was in that position poor kid i couldnt imagine being brought down like that Im sure its been going on his whole life hes probably going to need therapy"}