text: Kunal and Neha Kapur Nayyar
  
  09/11/2015 AT 12:00 PM EDT
  
  came to visit him for the first time, he had a few things on his mind that made him nervous.
  
  "I was living in a loft divided only by curtains. Would the curtains freak her out?" the
  
  writes in his new book of essays,
  
  , which is excerpted exclusively in the latest issue of PEOPLE.
  
  But he wasn't just worried about himself.
  
  "What if she had weird feet?" he continues. "I'm not proud to admit this, but weird feet are pretty close to a deal-breaker for me."
  
  Not that this fear was specific to Neha, who, as Nayyar describes her to PEOPLE, is a "beautiful
  
  "I should clarify that almost all feet are weird feet," he writes. "Also the sound of people wearing flip-flops drives me batty. Flip-flops should be banned."
  
  But Nayyar was willing to push past his fear, which is good because less than three years later he and Neha would wed at
  
  in their native New Delhi.
  
  "I don't think I would have found Neha if I hadn't been willing to risk failure," he writes. "You can't find love if you're not willing to lose it. You can't find the love of your life without risking breaking your heart. Dive in."
  
  Yes, My Accent Is Real –
  
  returns Sept. 21 on CBS.
summary: The actor shares an excerpt from his new book, Yes, My Accent Is Real, exclusively with PEOPLE